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CHAPTER 9. MEANS AND ENDS<br />
What happened? Fallen in love with sarees? You CAN fall in love with things. It is difficult to fall<br />
in love with persons, it is very easy to fall in love with things because things are dead, you can<br />
manipulate them. Sarees will never say, ”Wear us! We would like to go out and have a look around.”<br />
<strong>The</strong> car will never say, ”Drive me, I am getting bored.”<br />
With persons it is difficult. <strong>The</strong>y will demand, they will ask, they would like to go out, they have their<br />
own desires to be fulfilled. When you fall in love with a person there is always conflict, so those who<br />
are clever never fall in love with persons, they always fall in love with things: a house, a car, clothes.<br />
<strong>The</strong>y are always easy, manageable, and you always remain the master and the other never creates<br />
trouble. Or, if you fall in love with a person, you immediately try to convert him into a thing, a dead<br />
thing. A wife is a dead thing, a husband is a dead thing, and they torture each other. Why do they<br />
torture each other? What is the point of it? Through torture they make the other dead so the other<br />
be<strong>com</strong>es a thing, manipulatable. <strong>The</strong>n they are not worried.<br />
Two matrons were looking at a bookshop window. One said to the other, ”Look, there is a book<br />
entitled How to Torture Your Husband.”<br />
But the other was not interested. She didn’t even look at the book – she said, ”I don’t need it, I have<br />
a system of my own.”<br />
Everybody has his own system of torturing the other, because only through torture and destruction<br />
can a person be changed into a thing.<br />
It happened once that Mulla Nasruddin walked into the coffee house looking very angry, very<br />
aggressive and dangerous, and he said, ”I hear that someone has called my wife an ugly old hag.<br />
Who is this guy?”<br />
A man stood up, a very tall, strong, giantlike man. He said, ”I said that about your wife, and what<br />
about it?”<br />
Looking at the person, Nasruddin immediately calmed down; he was dangerous. He went up to him<br />
and said, ”Thank you, this is my feeling too, but I couldn’t gather the courage to say so. You have<br />
done it, you are a brave man.”<br />
What happens in a relationship? Why does it always turn ugly? Why is it so impossible to love?<br />
Why does everything be<strong>com</strong>e poisoned? ...Because the mind is always happy to manipulate things,<br />
because things never rebel: they are always obedient, they never disobey. A person is alive, you<br />
cannot predict what he is going to do. And you cannot manipulate...the other’s freedom be<strong>com</strong>es<br />
the problem.<br />
Love is such a problem because you cannot allow the other the freedom to be. And remember this:<br />
if you really love, real love is possible only when you allow the other total freedom to be himself or<br />
herself. But then you cannot possess, then you cannot predict, then you cannot be secure, then<br />
everything has to move moment to moment. And mind wants to plan, to be secure and safe.<br />
Mind wants life to run along a track because mind is the most dead thing in you. It is as if you are<br />
a river and a part of the river is an iceberg. Your mind is just like the iceberg, it is the frozen part of<br />
<strong>The</strong> <strong>Empty</strong> <strong>Boat</strong> 163 <strong>Osho</strong>