Lessons In Practical Buddhism - Sirimangalo.Org
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for themselves and others. Actually, it is simply<br />
misunderstanding that is at the root of all suffering; if<br />
everyone were honest with themselves, they would have to<br />
admit that all attachment and clinging even in family life has<br />
never brought much happiness or peace at all; on the<br />
contrary, the more one clings to others, the more one suffers<br />
when they change, as this example shows.<br />
The pleasure that goes along with desire is what leads to<br />
expectations of permanence, satisfaction, and controllability.<br />
When those expectations are not met, the result will be such<br />
unwholesome states as anger, frustration, sadness and<br />
despair, etc. It is therefore natural that there should be<br />
suffering when a person tries to give up clinging, especially<br />
towards other people who are accustomed to a mutual<br />
clinging relationship with that person. The successful<br />
meditator will not make a conscious decision to stop clinging<br />
to others, they will simply realize for themselves that no<br />
good comes from attachment to that which is impermanent,<br />
unsatisfying and uncontrollable, seeing for themselves that<br />
objectively experiencing reality as it is leads to far more<br />
peace and happiness for those who are do so. Their change<br />
in outlook is a natural outcome of seeing reality as it truly is,<br />
and the change in how they relate to the world around them<br />
is only the natural outcome.<br />
It is thus important to remember to be open to all<br />
experiences that arise in meditation, whether pleasing or<br />
displeasing. If something arises in our experience, we must<br />
admit them to be a part of reality and adjust our<br />
understanding accordingly, rather than trying to alter the<br />
experience itself or even reject it outright in order to fit with<br />
our preconceived notions of what reality should be. If we are<br />
intent upon realizing the truth, we should be willing to open<br />
up to even unpleasant situations. This doesn’t mean that our<br />
meditation will always be unpleasant – meditation can also<br />
bring states of great happiness or calm – but when we are<br />
objective in our observation, we will see that even these<br />
experiences are impermanent, unsatisfying, and, in the end,<br />
uncontrollable. Once we note them as “happy, happy”,<br />
“calm, calm”, we will lose any clinging towards them that<br />
might lead us to expect them to stay or arise when they do<br />
not.<br />
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