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Contraception in Contemporary Orthodox Judaism

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Perhaps the appropriate approach for the rabbi would be to spell out<br />

the issues to the couple and let them decide for themselves.<br />

Ultimately, how many children a couple bears is a matter of personal<br />

choice s<strong>in</strong>ce the Torah requires only fulfill<strong>in</strong>g the basic mitzvah and<br />

reta<strong>in</strong><strong>in</strong>g the option of cont<strong>in</strong>u<strong>in</strong>g. He should <strong>in</strong>form them of the<br />

issues associated with ‘problem free’ contraception, and neither<br />

permit nor forbid. Personal choice need not be antithetical to halacha,<br />

particularly <strong>in</strong> cases <strong>in</strong> which the halacha itself is unclear and the<br />

matter impacts the questioner <strong>in</strong> a very personal way.<br />

This same approach could really be employed <strong>in</strong> the second case as<br />

well, with the focus on different issues. The couple should be told<br />

about the obligations of procreation and the problem of delay<strong>in</strong>g it.<br />

They should be aware of the dangers of an ‘open-ended’ period of<br />

preparation for procreation and the need to set a time limit. After<br />

that, the rabbi could leave the decision to them, with the guid<strong>in</strong>g<br />

pr<strong>in</strong>ciple be<strong>in</strong>g s<strong>in</strong>cere preparation for procreation, as opposed to<br />

avoid<strong>in</strong>g responsibility.<br />

The first case is the most difficult and potentially the most explosive.<br />

Even the discussion itself is not someth<strong>in</strong>g the typical rabbi wants on<br />

his record. No matter how clear and confidential the discussion is,<br />

there is always a danger of misunderstand<strong>in</strong>g and of it be<strong>in</strong>g made<br />

public. In the modern world, even discuss<strong>in</strong>g birth control with an<br />

unmarried couple is only a small step away from an implicit heter for<br />

pre-marital sex.<br />

It is quite <strong>in</strong>terest<strong>in</strong>g that <strong>in</strong> none of these test cases does the matter<br />

h<strong>in</strong>ge upon the orig<strong>in</strong>al issue associated with contraception – spill<strong>in</strong>g<br />

seed. The pill and the IUD both elim<strong>in</strong>ated that problem and left us<br />

with the more nebulous problem of delay<strong>in</strong>g procreation. While there<br />

is no deny<strong>in</strong>g that this is <strong>in</strong>deed someth<strong>in</strong>g to be concerned about, it<br />

hardly rates as a severe transgression that should make contraception<br />

forbidden except under specific cases <strong>in</strong>volv<strong>in</strong>g health risks. One gets

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