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CHAPTER 26. MEDITATION: WATCHFULNESS, AWARENESS, ALERTNESS – THE REAL TRINITY
For example: sexuality is part of his will-to-power, it is not separate. Through sex also he is trying to
be powerful, to be a creator, to give birth, to possess a woman or a man. And you can look at any
couple: they are continually in a power conflict – who possesses whom?
The wife is trying in every possible way... and she has some natural capacity which she uses. If
you are not allowing her to be more powerful than you then she will deprive you of sex, and she
knows that you cannot starve as far as sex is concerned. You are going to beg her, you are going
to persuade her: you are going to bring chocolates and ice cream and beautiful clothes. She
understands that this is all bribery. You also understand it, that this is trying to make a coexistence
possible.
But your effort is also continuously to dominate her.
One of my friends was in love with a woman but was not ready to marry her. Now the woman was
troubled; she came to me and she told me, ”This is strange. Now my family is after me saying, ’If he
loves you then he should marry you, otherwise you are passing the marriageable age.’”
And in India it is then difficult to find a young man of your age available. They will already be married.
Then you will have to be married to somebody who is far older than you – perhaps once or twice
married before, and whose wives fortunately went on dying and who is still a bachelor. ”So, they are
after me: ’Either he marries you or we choose somebody else.’”
I said, ”Let me ask him what is the problem.”
And he told me, ”I cannot hide it from you. I really love her, but when the question of marriage arises,
the trouble is she is taller than me.”
I said, ”What kind of trouble is that? I don’t see any trouble in it. If she is taller, you can stand up on
a stool and kiss her – at the most a stool is needed!”
I showed him a picture – just that day it was in the newspaper and the newspaper was lying there
– of Mountbatten, the last viceroy of India, who was a very tall man, with the first prime minister
of India, Jawaharlal Nehru, who was only five feet five. So when he gave the oath to Jawaharlal it
would have looked really bad: the prime minister would have looked very small, the viceroy really
tall. He must have been six and a half feet, or even more, so they arranged it in the picture....
I showed him, ”You see the management. Jawaharlal is standing on a step, the steps that lead to
the throne. He is standing on a step, and Mountbatten is standing on the floor so they seem almost
equal in size.” I said, ”Can you see the trick? It is not much of a problem. You can have a folding
stool which you can always have in the back of your car, so wherever you need you take your stool.”
He said, ”You are making a laughingstock of me. I am serious, because wherever I go, she will be
taller and I cannot continually walk with the stool. And in the marriage ceremony when I am taking
the seven rounds around the sacred fire, I will be ahead of her looking almost like her child she is so
tall. I love her, but I cannot marry her because everybody will laugh.”
And in the marriage ceremony in India all the relatives and friends from faraway gather. It is a
gathering of thousands of people. And they were rich people, so everybody would come and
From Ignorance to Innocence 376 Osho