From Ignorance to Innocence - Osho - Oshorajneesh.com

CHAPTER 22. THE COMMUNE: THE DISTILLATION OF REBELLIOUS SPIRITS
no trouble, no conflict.” So that’s the way it continued the remaining four years. He would put it on
the table and I would take it from the table, but not from him – ”because,” I said to him, ”that strategy
is ugly.”
But the family exploits every child because it has the power of money, prestige, the power of
numbers. And a child is just a child; how can he revolt? And the family poisons the child: you
are a Hindu, a Muslim, a Christian. It poisons the child: you are a republican, you are a democrat,
you are a socialist, you are a communist. It goes on poisoning him. And this whole poisoning piles
up and becomes your personality.
The commune is not your family or is your real family.
Strangely enough, every boy hates his father, every girl hates her mother; but nobody says so. On
the surface everything is polite and nice, just goody-goody. Deep down there are wounds. All the
wounds that have been inflicted upon you in your childhood you will carry your whole life. And those
wounds will work upon you in such a way that they will spoil your whole meaning.
For example, I see that the girl who hates her mother will behave exactly like the mother – because
from where is she going to learn? The mother was the first woman she knew. She hates her because
the mother forced her to be someone who she is not, and now she has to carry that burden.
So on the one hand she hates her; on the other hand that was the woman she came to know
most intimately. So in her gestures, in her language, in her reactions, in everything she will repeat
her mother. She will be just a carbon copy: the personality that she is carrying is her mother’s
personality.
No wonder that people hate themselves too. It is for the simple reason that the personality they
think they are is the personality given by the people whom they wanted to rebel against, but against
whom they were helpless.
Sigmund Freud has made a significant point about it: that the idea of God as father must have
arisen as a compensation. Somewhere back in primitive prehistory days, some young man must
have killed his father because that was the only way to be himself But then the repentance for killing
the father....
Sigmund Freud has no historical facts about it, there is no history available, but his deduction is
psychological, not historical. He says that every boy iS going to hate his father. He will go on hating
him.
But in hating one’s own father, the conscience is disturbed. To console the conscience, he starts
worshipping the father.
In India particularly – because I know India more than any other country – the son has to touch the
feet of the father, of the mother, of everybody who is older than him. This is just a way to help him:
by touching the feet of the father, he balances his hate with respect, and he feels at ease that he
respects his father.
From Ignorance to Innocence 316 Osho