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30 Jill Laurie Goodman talk to her about the possibility of going to Family Court. You might suggest that she look over her house or apartment to see how safe she would be if her abuser tried to break in. She should consider buying better locks or stronger windows and doors. Making herself difficult to find by getting a new job, a new place to live, or a new social security number, if feasible, may be a good course of action. An unlisted telephone number, caller ID, or a post office box may be helpful. If she is being stalked, you might suggest that she alter her appearance — color her hair or wear a different coat — and change her daily routes to work or to school. If her abuser knows where she works, she might talk to her employer about a different job assignment, away from the telephones or the public or at a different worksite, and she may be able to enlist workplace security personnel in her safety planning. Children can both help and complicate safety planning. Sometimes a client’s children can be taught to make collect calls to friends or relatives, to dial 911, or to go to a neighbor’s for help. Code words can be arranged to signal danger and the need to act. But children should be warned not to try to intervene in an argument because they can get hurt. Also, an abuser may try to use children as a means of gaining access to your client. Visitation transitions can be violent, so you might encourage your client to think about arranging pick up and drop off at a police station or a public place. Teachers and other adults in your clients’ children’s life should be told about any order of protection and warned against letting anyone besides designated caregivers pick up the children. Just as your client is a critical source of information on danger, so too is she an indispensable source of information on safety. She knows her own life, and, equally importantly, she knows her abuser — she is probably an expert on his habits and his ways of thinking. The New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence has a good safety checklist (reproduced on the next page) for victims to fill out themselves that you might suggest to your client, 13 but you also should encourage her to think creatively and independently about her own safety because ultimately the decisions about how to protect herself are in her hands.
Appendix Safety Planning Checklist Danger and Safety 31 Reprinted from Domestic Violence: Finding Safety and Support, with thanks for permission from the New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence.
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30 Jill Laurie Goodman<br />
talk to her about the possibility of going to Family <strong>Court</strong>. You might suggest<br />
that she look over her house or apartment to see how safe she would be if her<br />
abuser tried to break in. She should consider buying better locks or stronger<br />
windows and doors. Making herself difficult to find by getting a new job, a new<br />
place to live, or a new social security number, if feasible, may be a good course<br />
of action. An unlisted telephone number, caller ID, or a post office box may be<br />
helpful. If she is being stalked, you might suggest that she alter her appearance<br />
— color her hair or wear a different coat — and change her daily routes to work<br />
or to school. If her abuser knows where she works, she might talk to her<br />
employer about a different job assignment, away from the telephones or the<br />
public or at a different worksite, and she may be able to enlist workplace<br />
security personnel in her safety planning.<br />
Children can both help and complicate safety planning. Sometimes a<br />
client’s children can be taught to make collect calls to friends or relatives, to<br />
dial 911, or to go to a neighbor’s for help. Code words can be arranged to signal<br />
danger and the need to act. But children should be warned not to try to intervene<br />
in an argument because they can get hurt. Also, an abuser may try to use children<br />
as a means of gaining access to your client. Visitation transitions can be violent,<br />
so you might encourage your client to think about arranging pick up and drop<br />
off at a police station or a public place. Teachers and other adults in your<br />
clients’ children’s life should be told about any order of protection and warned<br />
against letting anyone besides designated caregivers pick up the children.<br />
Just as your client is a critical source of information on danger, so too is she<br />
an indispensable source of information on safety. She knows her own life, and,<br />
equally importantly, she knows her abuser — she is probably an expert on his<br />
habits and his ways of thinking. The New York State Office for the Prevention of<br />
Domestic Violence has a good safety checklist (reproduced on the next page) for<br />
victims to fill out themselves that you might suggest to your client, 13 but you also<br />
should encourage her to think creatively and independently about her own safety<br />
because ultimately the decisions about how to protect herself are in her hands.