AFTER VIOLENCE: 3R, RECONSTRUCTION, RECONCILIATION ...
AFTER VIOLENCE: 3R, RECONSTRUCTION, RECONCILIATION ...
AFTER VIOLENCE: 3R, RECONSTRUCTION, RECONCILIATION ...
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hurt, or worse, fester.<br />
But doesn't time heal all wounds? Beyond a certain age we<br />
are all bereaved, having lost family members or friends. But we<br />
adjust, with small wounds, mixed with bitter-sweet memories.<br />
Unfortunately, that argument misses the point. Traumas divide<br />
into acceptable and unacceptable; those caused by war, or violence<br />
in general, are often unacceptable. Moreover, traumas divide into<br />
individual (or primary group level) and collective; those caused<br />
by violence may be individual, but those caused by war are<br />
collective. Collective, unacceptable traumas would be the most<br />
difficult to heal. Even collective sorrow may not do the job,<br />
including turning against the common foe, war itself.<br />
What is left for the conflict/peace worker would be to let<br />
the negative argument enter the dialogue: " what will happen if<br />
those traumas do not heal? The answer also depends on whether<br />
you, individually or collectively, are on top of the traumas, not<br />
rather than the traumas on top of you. On top they will not only<br />
eat out your heart but be in command, running yours or the<br />
nation's life, leading you into endless cycles of revenge. There<br />
may be short-term healing to gain from that. But there is a party<br />
on the other side with the same problem. Somebody has to break<br />
that vicious cycle. This is the task of the strongest, like it is<br />
the strongest who shouts least in an argument. That stronger one<br />
is you. Do the superhuman, put the wound behind you, find your<br />
guidance in the future, not the past."<br />
Rebuilding: the development approach. Of course, after<br />
destruction comes construction, and with construction come new<br />
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