AFTER VIOLENCE: 3R, RECONSTRUCTION, RECONCILIATION ...

Submission
Confession Voice&Ear Closure
Truth Amnesty Restitution
Closure Closure Closure
Trauma, Violence
Apology, Restitution
Closure
PERPETRATOR VICTIM
Forgiveness
Closure
The Truth & Reconciliation model is based on three pillars:
[1] Victim-Perpetrator: Forgiveness for Apology/Restitution
[2] Perpetrator-State: Truth in return for Amnesty
[3] State-Victim: Restitution in return for Closure
These three exchange relations are related. The basic
relation is between victim and perpetrator; that relation is the
centerpiece of the whole construction. There is an image of the
happy ending: Victim and perpetrator together undo the harm done,
partly materially (restitution), partly spiritually (forgiveness
in return for apology). Final outcome: closure.
If V and P can manage this alone, fine. This is probably the
most frequently found model in human affairs. As an example, take
an average family. There is love. But there may also be harm in
some or all relations: sexual, psychological, spiritual, economic
and social infidelity; lack of care and concern for children;
physically and verbally violent puberty reactions. In a mature
family this is handled according to pillar [1], with acts of love
as restitution, healing the wounded love relation. The State does
not enter, but possibly some other third party.
But we cannot assume that V and P can handle a relation of
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