COMMUNICATION HANDBOOK
COMMUNICATION HANDBOOK
COMMUNICATION HANDBOOK
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<strong>COMMUNICATION</strong> <strong>HANDBOOK</strong><br />
COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY<br />
Resolve Conflict<br />
If you view conflict as something that should not happen, something that harms relationships,<br />
it becomes negative. And then avoid it and hope it would go away. But if<br />
you see conflict as a fact of life, an opportunity to strengthen relationships, you have a<br />
way to resolving conflict by turning it into something creative.<br />
Try these 10 ways to resolve conflict:<br />
1. Agree on a mutually acceptable time and place to discuss the conflict.<br />
2. State the problem as you see it and list your concerns.<br />
o Make “I” statements.<br />
o Withhold judgments, accusations, and absolute statements (“always” or<br />
“never”).<br />
3. Let the other person have his/her say.<br />
o Do not interrupt or contradict.<br />
o Do not allow name-calling, put-downs, threats, obscenities, yelling or intimidating<br />
behavior.<br />
4. Listen and ask questions.<br />
o Ask fact-based questions (who? where? what? when? how?) to make sure<br />
you understand the situation.<br />
o Ask exploratory questions (what if? what are you saying? is this the only solution<br />
to your problem? what if did such and such? are there other alternatives<br />
to this situation?).<br />
o Avoid accusatory “why” questions (why are you like that?).<br />
o Use your own words to restate what you think the other person means and<br />
wants.<br />
o Acknowledge person’s feelings and perceptions.<br />
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