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64"* ^('M and Dad just aren't like they<br />
iVlused to be. They're constantly<br />
fighting. Dad only gets about four hours<br />
of sleep a night. Mom's afraid he's going<br />
to fall asleep around the machinery,"<br />
says Bob Lange, (not his real name), 17,<br />
with bitterness in his voice.<br />
"Things are terrible on the farm," he<br />
continues. "My older brother and his<br />
wife left last month. They couldn't stand<br />
the fighting anymore. It just crushed<br />
Mom and Dad. My little brother, who's<br />
13, hates the farm. He seems so. ..hostile<br />
to everyone."<br />
"What fighting? We have our disagreements,<br />
but no more than anyone<br />
else," defends Bob's mom in a separate<br />
conversation. "There's nothing wrong<br />
with my family. We're all very happy on<br />
the farm—that is, if, we don't lose it," she<br />
nervously jokes, as her worried eyes dart<br />
around the room.<br />
20<br />
"I hate going home on weekends,"<br />
says Bob's sister, Kim, a 20-year-old<br />
University of Wisconsin-Madison dairy<br />
science major. "Yet, I feel so guilty about<br />
leaving them with so much work to do.<br />
God, it's such a mess. If people only<br />
knew how screwed up my family is," she<br />
sobs, unable to control the tears any<br />
longer.<br />
If people only knew. The Langes portray<br />
the image of the perfect farm family<br />
successful, respected, hard working. They<br />
own 180 acres of fertile Wisconsin land<br />
and milk 50 registered Holsteins. And<br />
their children hate it.<br />
—<br />
Author Carolyn Deloph is a former FFA<br />
member from Columbus, Wisconsin. She is a<br />
junorat the University of Wisconsin- Madison,<br />
majoring in agricultural education and ag<br />
communications.<br />
ICryALot<br />
Young adults<br />
coping with stress<br />
By Carolyn Dedolph<br />
They are not alone. Although there<br />
are no exact figures, stress is drastically<br />
affecting many rural young people on<br />
the farm. How do they cope with farmwork,<br />
homework, peer pressure and<br />
parents?<br />
"It isn't easy," says Kim. "I cry a lot."<br />
Roger Williams, health and human<br />
services specialist at the University of<br />
Wisconsin-Madison, grew up on a farm.<br />
He understands the situation, and offers<br />
the following advice on how young<br />
aduhs can deal with farm stress.<br />
What is stress?<br />
"Stress, defined, is our internal reac-<br />
tions to things happening in our lives,"<br />
says Williams, developer of several rural<br />
Wisconsin stress programs and support<br />
groups. Stress isn't all bad, either. When<br />
we live a satisfying life of challenges, we<br />
are experiencing good stress, he says.<br />
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