CHECK Magazin - Gesundheitsmagazin für Männer No.11
Das Streben nach Leistung, Produktivität und Gewinnmaximierung steht im Fokus unserer modernen Arbeitswelt. Im heutigen Arbeitsalltag wird ein hohes Maß an Flexibilität, Kreativität, Anpassungsvermögen sowie ständige Verfügbarkeit und zugleich emotionale Belastbarkeit verlangt. Kognitiv und psychosozial werden wir stark herausgefordert. Es ist schwer, die Balance zwischen Über- und Unterforderung zu finden – beides ist gesundheitlich schädlich.
Das Streben nach Leistung, Produktivität und Gewinnmaximierung steht im Fokus unserer modernen Arbeitswelt. Im heutigen Arbeitsalltag wird ein hohes Maß an Flexibilität, Kreativität, Anpassungsvermögen sowie ständige Verfügbarkeit und zugleich emotionale Belastbarkeit verlangt. Kognitiv und psychosozial werden wir stark herausgefordert. Es ist schwer, die Balance zwischen Über- und Unterforderung zu finden – beides ist gesundheitlich schädlich.
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Partnership<br />
already compromising at this point in the relationship, you will probably soon feel more poison,<br />
for example in the form of emotional blackmail. Phrases like “If you leave now, it’s over” or “If<br />
you really love me, you wouldn’t behave like this” are nothing more than manipulations to gain<br />
control over the victim, who sub sequently blossoms less and feels less safe and at home.<br />
On the contrary, they feel bad around the toxic person and lose confidence and energy.<br />
The initial infatuation quickly turns into a dependency on how nice the toxic person is<br />
to them. Incidentally, this “being nice” never has anything to do with love, no matter<br />
how much the toxic person insists. The toxic person is only nice when the victim behaves<br />
as they should. And in order to achieve this, they will go to great lengths.<br />
TOXIC FOR THE ADVANCED<br />
There are many types of toxic people: manipulators, emotional vampires, envious<br />
people, imposters, narcissists, dictators. But they all have one thing in common:<br />
they are never to blame. On the contrary, they always give you the feeling that<br />
you owe them something. When they cross boundaries, they claim to have done<br />
so with the best of intentions and expect gratitude for doing so. “I told the<br />
neighbour you like to drink so she wouldn’t worry if we got loud again.” By<br />
spreading rumours, the toxic person gains control over the narratives in the<br />
relationship. The victim is branded as problematic and thus loses credibility.<br />
Another stage is the so-called gaslighting, a term that comes from the<br />
1944-film Gaslight. In it, an impostor tricks his wife into believing she is<br />
mentally ill. He manipulates a gas lamp in such a way that the light<br />
flickers. While the wife notices and comments on it, the man claims<br />
that she is just imagining it. This extreme form of manipulation can’t<br />
work in the long run, so the toxic person has to get inventive. For<br />
example, they will create situations where the victim is portrayed<br />
as appearing like a perpetrator: “You want everyone to think I’m cruel<br />
and manipulative.” Getting out of such a situation is extremely difficult<br />
for the victim, because there is now a lack of self-esteem, a sense of<br />
what is true and what is not, and also a lack of social contacts through<br />
which a reality check and exposing the toxic person would be possible. In<br />
order to emotionally survive in this situation, the victim must repeatedly<br />
become a helper, apologise and take responsibility for their bad behaviour.<br />
“YOU WANT<br />
EVERYONE TO<br />
THINK I’M<br />
CRUEL AND<br />
MANIPULATIVE.”<br />
WHY AM I SO STUPID?<br />
You’re not and it has nothing to do with stupidity anyway. If a toxic person wants to<br />
hack into your life, they will. The only thing that helps is to stay alert and not paint the<br />
red flags pink and hope the person might change. Are your friends saying the guy isn’t<br />
quite kosher? Are you afraid that he or she will become violent? Is your partner constantly<br />
pushing your buttons or making you feel like you’re not good enough? Then run and<br />
don’t wonder why toxic people are the way they are. That is the task of psychologists and<br />
sociologists. Leave the rest to karma or the competent court. Cut contact, look ahead and<br />
in the future: Stay on the beach and munch that sandwich rather than get out into that surf.<br />
CAUTION:<br />
Domestic violence includes all all forms of of physical, sexual and/or psychological violence between<br />
people people in mostly in mostly domestic domestic communities. The location The location of the of event the event can also can be also outside be outside the home,<br />
between<br />
the e. g. home, on the e.g. street, on the in street, a shop in and a shop place and of work. place In of the work. event In the of an event acute of an threat, acute please threat, call please the police<br />
call immediately the police on immediately 110. on 110.<br />
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