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Blame it on Eve<br />
Rapists are not born, they are made<br />
Opinion 13<br />
DT<br />
TUESDAY, MAY <strong>23</strong>, <strong>2017</strong><br />
THE<br />
WORLD IN<br />
PARENTHESES<br />
• SN Rasul<br />
The Banani rape case at the<br />
Raintree Hotel, amongst<br />
other incidents, has<br />
made it imperative that<br />
Bangladesh take a good look in<br />
the mirror and sort out a veritable<br />
existential crisis that it is going<br />
through.<br />
Especially when it comes to the<br />
way it treats the women who are<br />
part of its burgeoning population,<br />
contribute to its economy, inhabit<br />
the 147,000 square kilometres or<br />
so of its land.<br />
It has become necessary, at<br />
least, to have a conversation,<br />
amongst the very people who<br />
take space in this country, from<br />
you and I in the middle, to people<br />
perched on the topmost rung and<br />
the ones clinging on to the lowest.<br />
Apples and oranges<br />
Conversation has, however,<br />
erupted out of the remnants of<br />
the case. From opinion pieces to<br />
Facebook statuses, everyone in the<br />
country has something to say. But<br />
much of it isn’t new.<br />
But that’s no surprise. Some of<br />
it does bear repeating:<br />
1) Women’s sexual history does<br />
not matter.<br />
2) What they wore doesn’t<br />
matter.<br />
3) No one “deserves” to be<br />
raped (yes, even the rapists<br />
themselves, but I suppose that’s<br />
another argument, for another<br />
portal).<br />
These are some of the basics.<br />
In keeping with the Abraham<br />
traditions, when the forbidden<br />
apple is bitten, blame it on Eve. It<br />
seems, in many instances, Satan<br />
works through the female of the<br />
species.<br />
Much of this has been said, and<br />
it has been said plenty. In fact,<br />
maybe too often?<br />
Why? Because these words<br />
get limited breathing space. They<br />
are heard by people who already<br />
agree, or by those who’ve heard it<br />
enough to not pay any heed.<br />
Not that words aren’t powerful.<br />
<strong>May</strong>be a mind is changed. <strong>May</strong>be<br />
two. Through the pathos of the<br />
incident, there must be someone<br />
who decides to tread the path<br />
devoid of victim-blaming.<br />
But far too few, far too rare.<br />
Blame it on temptation<br />
Why do these thoughts persist? Education? Sure. Impunity? Definitely. A<br />
majority that believes in the way certain sexes are supposed to be?<br />
The serpents<br />
Going back to the issue of<br />
Bangladesh’s existential crisis, it<br />
would be a mistake to think that<br />
victim-blaming is a solely lower<br />
class, previous generation issue.<br />
Even the progeny of “educated”<br />
upbringing hold on to such<br />
thoughts.<br />
Much of it one may never<br />
find out, unless one is a trusted<br />
friend. Having experienced the<br />
overwhelming arguments against<br />
rape culture in their social strata,<br />
they hide behind well-veiled<br />
pseudo-sympathetic statements of<br />
agreement.<br />
This is something I’ve<br />
experienced first-hand (and I<br />
think many have too, and have<br />
not spoken up because, like me,<br />
they did not wish to break the<br />
status quo with the individual in<br />
question). As a person worthy of<br />
trust, they will reiterate common<br />
adages: “Of course, what did they<br />
expect would happen?” and “In<br />
these parties, these things are<br />
common, and the girls know that<br />
things like that are expected to<br />
happen,” and “I don’t mean to<br />
be sexist but clothes like that do<br />
trigger assaults.”<br />
Sometimes it’s evident in the<br />
way they boast of their sexual<br />
prowess, and how long they can<br />
last in bed. They’ll move with ease<br />
through the social ranks, their socalled<br />
masculinity on display, but<br />
without consequence.<br />
What do we do? We sit back<br />
and listen. <strong>May</strong>be not all of us, but<br />
some of us. I, myself, will not shy<br />
away from the blame.<br />
Much of it has to do with the<br />
fact that, otherwise, these people<br />
are “good” in most senses of the<br />
word. How do you define good?<br />
Do they harm others? No. Do<br />
they care for their parents, their<br />
friends, their husbands and wives,<br />
their children? Yes. Are they<br />
religious? Most of the time.<br />
Let it be, we say, they’re not<br />
harming anyone. They would<br />
never change their minds. These<br />
thoughts are ingrained.<br />
Eden hazard<br />
I suppose when Hefazat has to<br />
come out and issue a statement,<br />
we are scraping the bottom of<br />
the barrel. But why do these<br />
thoughts persist? Education? Sure.<br />
Impunity? Definitely. A majority<br />
that believes in the way certain<br />
sexes are supposed to be? Of<br />
course.<br />
(We must also understand that<br />
we, too, believe in “supposed to<br />
be’s.”)<br />
A lot of the things we do may<br />
prevent a certain generation of<br />
people from a certain class from<br />
attaining the same mindsets as<br />
that of sexual predators. But what<br />
of the rest?<br />
What of the husband in that<br />
unnameable village who rapes his<br />
wife every night? The rickshawpuller<br />
who stares at the sleevelesskameez<br />
ladies on the street? The<br />
huzur who teaches your kids<br />
Arabic but believes the word of<br />
God to a T?<br />
To delude ourselves into<br />
thinking that there isn’t a<br />
conversation to be had between<br />
you and these people, because you<br />
are somewhat on the same page,<br />
won’t fly. Bangladesh is no Eden,<br />
least of all for women.<br />
A lot of it stems from the<br />
villainisation of the culprit, the<br />
dehumanisation of his being,<br />
the extrapolation of his actions<br />
BIGSTOCK<br />
from all context. Rapists are not<br />
born out of a vacuum; they are<br />
bred, either by circumstance or<br />
influence.<br />
This, if anything, we must<br />
understand.<br />
There is little as disheartening<br />
as living in a country where the<br />
very act of being a woman on the<br />
street is an act of rebellion. The<br />
system itself believes them to have<br />
been borne out of shame, guilt,<br />
and wrong-doing.<br />
The Banani rape case is<br />
newsworthy. The countless others<br />
are missed statistics, invisible<br />
stains on the bedsheets of violent<br />
oppression. What do we do, in this<br />
state? With our overlords giving<br />
the likes of Hefazat, and what<br />
they believe, more and more of<br />
a platform, are we merely, with<br />
these words, consoling ourselves?<br />
Or is there, through better<br />
understanding, a way out of this<br />
hell? •<br />
SN Rasul is an Editorial Assistant at the<br />
Dhaka Tribune.